There are imposters among us. These imposters seem to be men. They are anatomically and physiologically men, but lack the mental capacity of men. These are called Halfmen.
These Halfmen can be found all throughout our culture despite race or religion. They may be the young man bagging your groceries at the supermarket or your congressman. Many of these Halfmen are not aware of their condition and for this they will never be cured.
There are varying degrees of these Halfmen and they are hard to identify so here are five characteristics to help with identifying them in nature.
Five Characteristics of the Halfman:
- Entitlement Without Action
- Suppression of Man Traits
- Eagerness to Follow
- No Control Over Circumstances
Entitlement without Action
“If this country is ever demoralized, it will come from trying to live without work.”
― Abraham Lincoln
Fry cooks at McDonalds demanding $15/hour as their minimum wage, college graduates sitting on Wall Street during the “Occupy Wall Street” movement, and the eight year old who throws his sucker in the dirt and cries because he doesn’t get what he wants in the store.
What are the differences among these three examples? Nothing at all. This is what we get when there are no winners or losers on a little league field. This is what happens when teachers are made to stop using red ink to grade homework assignments in grade school because it causes stress for the student who didn’t do well.
The Halfman has grown up in a world of unnatural balance. A world where everyone’s a star and no one is left out not matter how poor the performance. He has no need for the focus and willpower that comes along with the fear of being the loser or the dumbest one in the class.
He is not burdened with the stress that comes with being judged by his teammates or coaches and for this… the minimum is sufficient. Why try to be the best when there is no best?
The Halfman has spent his entire youth with the understanding that the world is fair and no matter the sacrifice he will be rewarded the same as all that participate.
As the Halfman is welcomed into the world he soon learns that the world is not as balanced as it was at the university that he spent the last 4-7 years. Those years spent on the intense study to earn a degree in Art History seem to have been wasted when he is met with not being chosen for the position as CEO of a corporation in an industry he has zero experience in.
To the Halfman, this is unfair and completely inexcusable! Something must be done! And lucky for him, Halfmen from all over the country agree and they will ban together to make their statement and do the Halfmanly thing… throw their suckers in the dirt and cry until things change to give them what they deserve.
Suppression of Man Traits
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
The Halfman has been conditioned to suppress the core being of his manhood. No longer in this society is there room for the man of our grandfathers’ generation.
No room for the man that prides himself on being just as well suited for the ballroom as well as under a shade tree changing the oil on his car. The Halfman’s toolbox is more like a purse and his tools are more for connectivity to the world for his vanity than for being prepared for a breakdown.
The Halfman focuses on sensitivity to win the hearts of the women who only hope to further suppress any hint of manhood he may possess. Without the personality traits of what a man use to be, he is free to focus on manicures and pedicures while researching the latest styles that are trending so that he may impress people he doesn’t like.
The competitive spirit that is within all men is lost on the Halfman. Its there but was suppressed long before in his youth. He is taught that being a winner, even a gracious respectful winner, only means that someone else lost… and that isn’t fair. So go Halfman… go out there and be mediocre for that is only fair to those who can’t be.
Eagerness to Follow
“Leadership is not about titles, positions or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.”
― John C. Maxwell
It is in the greatest depths of the Man to inspire those around him to be the best they can be and to unite that excellence for a common goal and to succeed with tenacity! The Man desires naturally to left lift up the people around him to the level of success above him. In doing this he will give himself the boost he needs to lift himself to that level as well.
The Halfman is not worried about this. He is a follower and feels safety in that. Being a follower has virtually no danger involved. No danger of failure… no danger of success either. But as a whole it is safer.
The Halfman can always blame his environment, circumstances or others for his current state. He is not responsible for the lack of success in his life. Following is easy and fair. If we are all followers, then who is to blame? Not the Halfman!
Goal of the Halfman is not to start the trend but to follow it. Starting a trend or taking a leap of faith could mean failure. And failure is something the Halfman has never had to deal with thanks to the caring parents and society that created the Halfman.
No Control Over Circumstances
“The greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
― Martha Washington
The Halfman was put here. He was created by the circumstances around him. The environment is responsible, not him. He can not be blamed for the shortcomings of his situation and for that he cannot overcome them.
Things in life happen to all of us… man, woman, child or Halfman. The difference between success and failure is not the happening, but the choice of how to handle it. The Halfman chooses to take it blow by blow like a hardened boxer… the only difference is, that at the first oppurtunity he has to hit the mat he will stay down for the count.
The situations that happen in life are open ended. Unless you die in that situation… then it’s a done deal! But unless death is involved, the choice is still available as to how you handle the situation. From the smallest inconvenience, to a tragic event with great loss… Halfmen accept it and use it for blame of other parts of their current state.
As a follower of other followers there is no leader to blame and the Halfmen as a group are left to blame the universe. This is fair. Blaming the universe means that no one else had to loose and the status is kept even throughout the population of Halfmen. Everyone is even and content.
“You’ll never find a rainbow if you’re looking down”
― Charles Chaplin
The final character trait of the Halfman is Wonder. He wonders why he isn’t further along in his career and doesn’t understand why, after a year and a half, he doesn’t have the corner office. He wonders why at 26 years old he was turned down for a mortgage.
The Halfman wonders why no matter what he does he can’t get ahead. The world is unfair and unbalanced, for this he wonders what it would be like if it was fair and how nice that would be.
The Halfman doesn’t see the grueling hours in the gym for years that the body builder puts in to get the biceps he has. He doesn’t realize that while he is drooling in his pillow in the mornings, the next best selling author is up at 5 am while her family is asleep typing out another 500 words for her book.
As the Halfman rushes to get ready for work in the morning and is going to be late, the next promotion is going to the guy down the hall that beat the boss to work and will stay after work a little, after the Halfman heads home early.
With all this going on around him the Halfman wonders what he is doing wrong. With all this time spent on wonder, the Halfman has no time to take the first step that will lead to the second, third and fourth. He is far to busy wondering “why” to be able to decide the “what” that could get him a little closer.
The rabbit hole of wonder leads the Halfman further and further away from his goals.